Our a BIT COMPLICATED STORY..
YET ENDED
SWEET..ROMANTIC..!
"Love is when you never give up or lose hope! Love is when you are willing to give everything or your all to your loved one.. and to prove the world YOUR LOVE!"
Moi and I met May 2008, BACOLOD CITY –
NEGROS OCCIDENTAL PHIL (City of smiles).
Note: Pictures taken 2008
(Since then we always wear our shirts with same color) hehe. It is our trademark back then. :)
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It was a rainy evening that he asked his
friend to send me a text message to invite me for a drink, to join them. I was
with my work colleagues and he was with his girlfriend and friends. I asked
permission to my colleagues and went straight to join Moi and his friends. I
brought with me some beers that everyone could enjoy. It was a crazy night
because we all drank under the rain. When we finished our beers, we all decided
to go to a restaurant called chowking and bought some foods. The restaurant
even placed a warning sign “floor is wet” because they didn’t stopped us all to
be inside and the floor was absolutely soaking wet.
I went home after that, and after an hour –
I received a text message (an unknown number). The first text I received:
KAMUSTA KA NA?! (How are you?) I didn’t replied to that message and I wasn’t
guessing from whom it came from.
Morning came and I had to meet with my
boyfriend. I received another text message from the same number asking me how
am I… I replied (WHO ARE YOU?!) and I was surprised that he replied, “AKO NI SI
JUN-JUN) à This is me, Jun2.
I didn’t expect that we’d end up
text-mates. He started to ask me to go out with him and there was even a time
that he invited me to meet his cousin “NANG GING”. We ate at a fine restaurant
near my dorm called CITY BURGER.
We were friends, really good friends. But
he started to show affection and I can’t stop my emotions to show him my
feelings. But of course there’s something stopping me.. For the fact that we
are both not available “ he has his girlfriend and I have mine, too”.
Sometimes, he would pay me a visit at my
place, bring some foods, and mingle with my friends… He was really cute! He was
very nice to me that made me like him so much. He would really exert some
effort to see me. “ ANY GUY THAT WOULD EXERT EXTRA EFFORT FOR A GIRL is BIG
TIME”.
One night, he asked me to see him because
he said he needs me. He showed me a text message and it came from his
girlfriend. I can’t remember the entire message but the line that I can
remember “IF YOU LOVE ME, YOU HAVE TO LET ME GO”.
Moi was actually very emotional that night,
and at the same time… my boyfriend and I had to separate ways as well days ago
for some reasons. We talked all night as GOOD FRIENDS. After hours of talk, I
decided to go home as I am suffering some pain from my own problems too. I was at the point …I can’t handle
these things anymore, I can’t take more of information about love and
relationship. (DRAMATIC)… I need some sleep… I need some rest…
The next morning, he called me if I can go
out with him, and I said yes. My friends were worried about me that day, they
told me to stop seeing him because he has a girlfriend. I talked to them and
told them that I saw the text myself that his girlfriend broke up with him.
It’s not that I’m going out with him because he’s already available and free
but for the fact that he needs someone to talk.
That day was the START of our sweet and
romantic love story (just sweet moments)… EVERY SINGLE DAY we spent time
together… and we felt that there was a SPARK.. He honestly told me that he was
in love with me ( I LOVE YOU). So,
what do you expect?!... Of course, I had to be honest with him too, I told him
those four cute words for a response “I LOVE YOU TOO”.
But that doesn’t end there yet… after that
week... Horrible things happened. I thought it was be a GREAT BEGINNING OF OUR
RELATIONSHIP… but it turned my world UPSIDE DOWN, I was devastated… and it was
the most frustrating day... “HERE IT GOES”…
I don’t have to write here every single detail
but I’d go straight to the point and just mention important things that
happened after OUR FEW WEEKS of RELATIONSHIP.
I received a text (a weird text message)
saying: “MEI, I warn you… Jun has a wife”
When I received that text message, a burst
into tears… I hurriedly texted him, how dare him…bla…bla…bla… I lied down on my
bed in so much pain… Maybe after 15 minutes, someone knocked… fast and loud.
There he stood outside my room with tears falling down on his cheeks. He knelt
and told me “IT ISN’T TRUE”… he told me that I should not believe that text
message. He cried hard on his knees. I was so moved and I cried with him. AND…
I believed him. We started to be OKAY again… but my friends weren’t
comfortable. They keep on telling me to stop seeing him and I even guessed that
it was one of them that sent me the text message. I didn’t have time to
confront them and focused my time and attention to Jun and my work.
However, few days later… I received a text
message from his cousin. The content of the message was the same from the first
message I received few days ago… It was heartbreaking.
Jun hurried to see me again that time but I
know what to do this time. I told him to leave me; I don’t want to see him
again… I pushed him away. I even had to throw some bad words on him.
I had my mind set that time that I
shouldn’t see him. Won’t even reply to his messages. I should stop loving him…
I deserve to be happy and was so mad that he to place me in that kind of
situation.
One night, I received a text message. “I
need you, I need to see you”. I didn’t replied. This time, I should be HARD and
I should not fall into my emotions. But I received a second text message him
saying that he is going to run away from his home. And that message alarmed me.
I was calling him but he doesn’t answer. I
am just very worried about him. Then I just knew that he went to Iloilo
(another province here in the Philippines). He told me that he needed some
space; he needed to be away from his home. He told me that he loved me and he
will try to find a way to make all things right. (I didn’t quite understood
what he meant)… but I left him alone and didn’t send him replies to some of his
text messages anymore.
I know that in few days, he’ll be back and
I started to receive some text messaged from the GIRL. I told her that I’d stop
seeing him and will them alone.
Then again, I never knew that he was
married. Of course, if I knew that in the first place, I would have pushed him
away from the very start. I would have stopped myself from loving him. I REALLY
WOULD HAVE STOPPED MYSELF.
I decided to vacate Bacolod and go back
home for my own PEACE.
One night, I was packing my stuff at my
dorm. A car parked outside my dormitory. I knew that very moment, that it was
SHE. I am not scared but I don’t want to screw things up, I am running after my
schedule to go to Manila for a short vacation with my friend. (That time, Moi
was still at Iloilo).
I told our caretaker to open the gates for
me slowly. When I finally got out of the gate she started to TAP MY CAR HARD… I
can feel her RAGE. But I just want to avoid her. I saw her and her friends hurried inside the ADVENTURE CAR
and drove fast to come after me.
(Oh well, I drive fast and I am very confident
that they won’t catch me)…
(I was driving my pick-up Ford Ranger, Trekker).
I went to my friend’s house and left my car
and stuff. In the morning, I rode the taxi and went to airport to fly to
manila.
I needed some SPACE too. I need to be
somewhere peaceful. I hanged out with my friends. Went to disco (I can remember
that with my friend’s cousin, we had some beers at Temple Bar in Manila).. Then
more more beers at the other bars.
We went to a beach and it was relaxing. But
one night, I received a text message from the Girl. She was informing me that
they’re planning for CHURCH WEDDING… I replied “that’s good”. I don’t know what
was her intention that time if it was to hurt me… THEN SHE WON… I WAS BADLY
HURT…
After few days, I headed back to Bacolod,
and with my car and stuff, I went home to Iloilo. “IT WAS SOOOO GOOD TO BE
FINALLY HOME", after all the dramas and struggle…
I thought my life would change…But Jun would
still find some time to text me (he used different numbers). There are times
that I would send him a bad text message pushing him away.
Sometimes, he would
call me and just ignore his phone calls.
Though there are times I would reply to his text message and tell him that I still love him and I miss him. We secretly send each other "text message"...
THERE’S ONE VERY MOMENT THAT
SHOCKED ME. I was so sick and had to go to the hospital too see my doctor. When
I stepped out of the clinic, I found him standing there, teary eyed.
I was mad, and even pushed him away
(AGAIN). But he begged me to listen to him. And this is what he told me.
Jun-Jun: Okay, I am married. But that wasn’t legal. Our parents didn’t even
know that we were married. It was kept as a secret. The parent’s signatures
were even forged. The reason why we got married is for the sake of the
“PAPERS”. She took Nursing board exams and she passed her NCLEX. My sister was
willing to help her to go abroad or work in USA. The idea was once she will be
granted with a US VISA, she can easily petition me for HUSBAND VISA. Our
relationship is not well, and I am not deeply in love with her. When I found
you, I knew you were the one.
I don’t love her. In fact, you saw that
text message yourself and she was the one who broke up with me. We never acted
as husband and wife. She only
decided to tell my parents about that wedding during the time she found out
about us. After we broke up, she asked me to be back together but I didn’t had
her back because I am already in love with you.
I will fix things and I will prove to you
that YOU’RE THE ONE. I will fight for you and I will prove them that I LOVE
YOU!
That was the truth that I have been waiting
from him. Then I decided to tell him why AM I AT THE HOSPITAL.
The reason why I feel so sick that time, I
WAS PREGNANT.
I told him about my pregnancy. I even
expected him to be shocked and turn his back on me. But he hugged me so tight
and told me; I’ll do whatever it takes
to have you back in my life. One day, I’ll bring you to the ALTAR and we’ll
both raise our baby.
Even if he said that, I did not expected so
much. I believed in Action speaks louder than words. I was ready to be a single
mother. I can live without him. He doesn’t even need to promise me anything. I
will leave it to him if he can fulfill his promise.
I don’t know what happened to him when he
went back to Bacolod. I don’t know if he told HER.
After few months, he went to
Iloilo… he faced my parents. He told my parents that he would take the
responsibility and he will marry me.
(That time, my parents didn’t knew about his marriage with other woman)
It was December 2008 that both parties
(both families) had an argument. His sisters called my parents and informed
them about his marriage with the other girl. My parents were so mad at me that
they told me to stay away from Jun-Jun.
Jun was so
willing and eager to pursue his promise. He gathered his confidence and went to
Iloilo to face my parents. He told my parents everything. And he said that
despite of the marriage that he had with the other GIRL, he will fix things to
make things right and one day, he will MARRY ME. He will take full
responsibility of what happened to us, he would find a work or job in order to
sustain everything that we need most especially for our baby. But first, he had
to go back home to his family, talk to them and will try to find solutions. He
will never stop. He will prove everyone that HE CAN FIX THINGS FOR US.
Before I continue with our story, I just
want to butt this in… “LOVE IS PATIENT” à
indeed patient. Everything will fall into place once you have that
DETERMINATION.
“If your LOVE
is TRUE, You will do everything, anything for your LOVED ONES”
(Continued…)
Even after he promised my parents that
he’ll still make a stand for his decision, I did not gave my 100% hopes UP.
I’ve still set my mind that there’s still a possibility that he won’t fulfill
his promise but I will wait. I will be patient.
Jun struggled to find solutions… He never
got tired. Until ONE DAY, something came to him, A GOOD NEWS. WE CAN STILL
BE LEGALLY MARRIED!
I told him; before we move in together or
live together… we gave to get MARRIED FIRST. Not that I want to act like an OLD
LADY still believing in traditional set up. Hahaha. But that’s the CORRECT
& FORMAL WAY!
With the help of
my father, he went to these certain group of people to help us with this
situation and get us LEGALLY MARRIED. It
was April 5th of 2009 that we got MARRIED. (Locally Registered
and NSO Filed). There were witnesses and certificate from NSO can be requested
to certify the marriage. IT WASN’T A FAKE MARRIAGE.
Note: The pictures were taken during our wedding prep April 2009.
(Other photos to be uploaded soon)
We lived together happily and kept that
kind of marriage as a SECRET to others. Though some really knew it most
especially those who witnessed our wedding.
The girl decided to leave and went abroad. She
found her own peace and we prayed so hard for that. We didn’t told her though
about my and Jun’s marriage to avoid conflict. Though I know that she have
heard some news. (But Jun and I remained discrete about it).
Jun and I worked hard so we can pay for a
formal annulment for his and the other girl’s marriage.
Until we finally got the amount covered and
filed the annulment case for his marriage with his first wife. We went to a
psychologist and he attended several hearings. Despite of all the struggles and
hardships that we faced together to make sure that the annulment will be
granted, we stayed together and we never lose hope. We prayed hard. Every
centavo that was spent for the case came from our own pockets. We had hard
times because we have other financial obligations – We enrolled SELENE to a
private school, gave birth to THIRDY (caesarian method), we have our monthly
bills (electricity, water, phones, helpers, etc) and of course we purchased a
brand new car and we have been paying for it’s monthly amortization.
We both helped each other, and we worked
hard to prove everyone that we didn’t made or chose the WRONG DIRECTION. WE
know that we were right for each other.
We are PROUD of
what we have achieved. We started from the SCRATCH. We didn’t depend on our
parent’s money. Though there were times that they would provide help most
especially for the kids, WE APPRECIATE THOSE and WE ARE VERY HAPPY THAT THEY
WERE THERE (and until now) TO BE THERE FOR US! They supported us all the way,
they never gave up on us, they accepted everything and when they saw that we
GREW and became MATURED – THEY WERE ALL HAPPY FOR US.
January 2013, we received documents from
Iloilo. Our lawyer called us that the Annulment was granted. We were so happy…
FINALLY, the moment that we have been waiting for! Even though that Jun and I
already legally married, we still processed that annulment for his first wife.
We asked for a small amount from her but she never gave…haha! It’s her decision
but that was fine. She did promised but oh well, don’t need to talk about that
here. We filed the GRANTED ANNULMENT at Local Registry Office and National
Statistics Office.
After that busy annulment case, Jun and I
were busy organizing our wedding for June 15, 2013.
(NOW…) as of July 5, 2013.
I am writing this blog with a very happy
face. I have nothing to hide, what else to hide right? What I have now “ A
LOVING HUSBAND, SWEET AND ADORABLE KIDS” What can I ask for more? I Have a very
healthy and happy FAMILY.
Last June 15, 2013 – we had our Church
Wedding at Sacred Heart Church and reception at Sugarland Hotel. It was not
that very big, in fact – an intimate wedding for family and closed friends
only.
Jun or Moi and I very happy. His two
sisters from USA (Manang Anne, Manang Tata and her family) came home to witness
our wedding. My father was there to walk me down the aisle…
When I walked down the aisle, that red carpet with my
father, I was talking to God: (Teary Eyed)
Dear Lord, I thank you so much for this wonderful day.
(I looked to my father)… My mother isn’t
here but I know that she’s very happy for me and Jun, I thank you that my
father is here to walk me here despite of her absence, I know that deep inside
he is very happy even if he doesn’t smile. I can feel his joy and content that
finally Jun fulfilled his promise.
(I looked at my Parents in law from afar,
they were waiting for me with Jun2 near the altar)… I thank you for my very
loving & supportive parents in law; I know that they are happy for us. I
can see them smiling and excited.
(I glanced at my visitors that attended the
wedding ceremony) Finally, Lord thank you for those who shared with us during
this BIG DAY of ours. I can see them smiling and I know that they are all very
happy for US.
(When my father passed me to Jun2) LORD,
THIS IS IT… BECAUSE OF YOUR GUIDANCE, YOU MADE ALL THE WAYS FOR US TO BE
FINALLY BLESSED! We are finally married in YOUR EYES, and IN THE EYES of other
PEOPLE. You have answered our prayers and You have been with us all these
years. THANK YOU and AMEN.
After that
short and silent prayer, Jun and I paid attention to Listen to our officiating
priest. Until he announced, “YOU ARE NOW HUSBAND AND WIFE”. My heart jumped for
joy when everyone started to clap their hands and were so excited to see us
KISS! “YOU MAY NOW KISS THE BRIDE”.
I know this isn’t the END YET, WE’VE JUST STARTED OUR
NEW JOURNEY! LIKE EVERYONE SAID or MENTIONED DURING THEIR SPEECHES (Tatay Mert,
Tatay Moi, Sisters and Brothers, Our Ninong Teddy, Best Man and Other Friends)
AS LONG AS WE HAVE EACH OTHER, and Most especially AS LONG WE PUT GOD AS THE
CENTER OF OUR RELATIONSHIP & LIFE, nothing is impossible.
We have made this far…
Moi & Mei
Jun drives his blue vios with VCP Sticker (He is a member of vios club Philippines, Bacolod Chapter) - Dropped and It is also set up with upgraded sounds
I drive Dark blue Pick-Up (Ford Ranger, Trekker Edition)
I used to work at Convergys Bacolod
He was a student of Carlos Hilado Memorial School, Alijis - taking Information Technology
Memorable notes:
The girl and I used to send harsh messages to each other
His sisters and I were not in good terms (NOW, WE ARE LIKE REALLY SISTERS)
My friends used to turn their backs on me (IT'S GOOD THAT I STILL HAVE MY FRIENDS)
His friends were mad at me ( NOW, THEY ARE VERY HAPPY FOR US)
We have used "friendster" before - social networking, old skool. hehe. (OH WELL, NOW WE HAVE FACEBOOK)
Some spots or location we've been to year 2008: (with special memories)
Molohan at villamonte - this is were we had our first date.. (lol) We ate molo and barbeque
Nutty-G (carwarsh and resto) - we drink beers and we had sound off
Mushu (this used to be a disco place)
Resto sa Baybay
Moravia
Ignacio's Dormitory - where I stayed.
Punta Taytay - we ate seafoods
BONUS STORY:
There was once I asked Moi why he fell out of love with his girlfriend/first wife:
"I stopped loving her even before I met you.. There's something in her attitude that I don't like"
Then after he said that to me, he kissed me tenderly with passion.
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